happy birthday, mom!

mom!

i’ve never told her this (whoops in advance!) but when i was in middle school, i found my mom’s diary from high school!

we had the day off from school; mom was at work. i was bored. on top of already being extremely nosy.

as i sat in my mom’s bed, reading such a private piece of her history filled with sneaking out of the house, petty fights with her sister & boy crushes, my perspective of her changed forever.

first of all – it was the moment i realized my mom had actually been a teenager. like she actually went to high school & had friends. this was NEW. never had i ever put two & two together that she wasn’t perpetually a 40 year old woman . . .

i went from looking at her as my unrelateable mother to a woman who has been through some of the same things as me.

mom2

i hated that i snooped around & found her diary, but i think it was for the best. (please see it that way, mom!!)

did i suddenly respect my mom? did i stop talking back? did i think she was the coolest? did i do a bunch of unnecessary chores to make up for the guilt of the invasion of privacy?

unfortunately, no.

i continued to be her impossible teenage daughter. she always, always, always said,

“i hope you have a daughter JUST like you!”

& my smartass reply:

“me too! i’m awesome!”

sigh.

moommy

it amazes me how we made it through those rocky teenage years.

my mom & i are exactly 30 years apart. She turns 58 today (whoops – am i allowed to say that?) & i turned 28 last week.

over the last year, i have seen my beautiful mom as not just as my mom, but as a real-life human.

mom3

my mom is one of the most independent, smart women i have ever met.

she is disciplined, kind, diligent & honest.

one time i just did not want to go school & my mom said “ok, that’s fine.” i asked her to write me a note & say i was sick so the absence would be excused & she wouldn’t.

“i’ll write a note that says you didn’t want to go to school – but i won’t lie & say you were sick.”

she’s that kinda mom.

mom

she’s the kinda mom that when i came home crying because i got in a fight with one of my friends, she would usually take the side of my friend.

it sounds awful – but it wasn’t. it was real. she was real. she is such an amazing woman.

as most moms do, she has always put me & my brother before herself. she has cared for me in the best way she knows how.

mom5

i’ll never truly understand motherhood until the day i experience it for myself, but i know it wasn’t an easy ride to have me as a daughter. i don’t need to be a mom to figure that out . . . just read MY diary from high school 😉

she was independent & certainly raised an independent woman. i have so many characteristics in which i thank my mom for.

today, we celebrate you mom. happy birthday. thank you for who you are in my life & in the lives of all who know you. you are the most consistent person in my life. i have always been able to rely on you. in this crazy world, that’s a treasure.

mom2

love you, me

2 thoughts on “happy birthday, mom!

  1. Jeannie Bates says:

    You made me cry and I love you, girl. I am blessed to have two such wonderful kids. I hope you do have a daughter just like you someday and you will discover all the wonderful things that will mean even if you do fight sometimes. Love, Mom

  2. Judy says:

    Happy birthday, Jeannie, from the fabled, “sister in the diary!” Fight? You and me? NEVER!!! LOL. Love you Alicia, and love your mom!

    Judy

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