happy birthday, mom!

mom!

i’ve never told her this (whoops in advance!) but when i was in middle school, i found my mom’s diary from high school!

we had the day off from school; mom was at work. i was bored. on top of already being extremely nosy.

as i sat in my mom’s bed, reading such a private piece of her history filled with sneaking out of the house, petty fights with her sister & boy crushes, my perspective of her changed forever.

first of all – it was the moment i realized my mom had actually been a teenager. like she actually went to high school & had friends. this was NEW. never had i ever put two & two together that she wasn’t perpetually a 40 year old woman . . .

i went from looking at her as my unrelateable mother to a woman who has been through some of the same things as me.

mom2

i hated that i snooped around & found her diary, but i think it was for the best. (please see it that way, mom!!)

did i suddenly respect my mom? did i stop talking back? did i think she was the coolest? did i do a bunch of unnecessary chores to make up for the guilt of the invasion of privacy?

unfortunately, no.

i continued to be her impossible teenage daughter. she always, always, always said,

“i hope you have a daughter JUST like you!”

& my smartass reply:

“me too! i’m awesome!”

sigh.

moommy

it amazes me how we made it through those rocky teenage years.

my mom & i are exactly 30 years apart. She turns 58 today (whoops – am i allowed to say that?) & i turned 28 last week.

over the last year, i have seen my beautiful mom as not just as my mom, but as a real-life human.

mom3

my mom is one of the most independent, smart women i have ever met.

she is disciplined, kind, diligent & honest.

one time i just did not want to go school & my mom said “ok, that’s fine.” i asked her to write me a note & say i was sick so the absence would be excused & she wouldn’t.

“i’ll write a note that says you didn’t want to go to school – but i won’t lie & say you were sick.”

she’s that kinda mom.

mom

she’s the kinda mom that when i came home crying because i got in a fight with one of my friends, she would usually take the side of my friend.

it sounds awful – but it wasn’t. it was real. she was real. she is such an amazing woman.

as most moms do, she has always put me & my brother before herself. she has cared for me in the best way she knows how.

mom5

i’ll never truly understand motherhood until the day i experience it for myself, but i know it wasn’t an easy ride to have me as a daughter. i don’t need to be a mom to figure that out . . . just read MY diary from high school 😉

she was independent & certainly raised an independent woman. i have so many characteristics in which i thank my mom for.

today, we celebrate you mom. happy birthday. thank you for who you are in my life & in the lives of all who know you. you are the most consistent person in my life. i have always been able to rely on you. in this crazy world, that’s a treasure.

mom2

love you, me

2 thoughts on “happy birthday, mom!

  1. You made me cry and I love you, girl. I am blessed to have two such wonderful kids. I hope you do have a daughter just like you someday and you will discover all the wonderful things that will mean even if you do fight sometimes. Love, Mom

  2. Happy birthday, Jeannie, from the fabled, “sister in the diary!” Fight? You and me? NEVER!!! LOL. Love you Alicia, and love your mom!

    Judy

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